Reaching out/Not reaching out

-The new “anti self-help” literary genre is full of profanity, for fuck’s sake!

-Here’s a Times story I did about all the new street preachers and huggers-without-portfolio that I’ve seen popping up on the streets post-election. If restaurants and stores can pop up, why can’t the helping professions?

-Emma McGowan at The Bustle asked me if you should “friend” a hook-up or one night stand on Facebook. No.


Recent-ish work

-This was insanely fun to do: I got to make a video for Vanity Fair called The Donald Trump Holiday Gift Guide.

-Here’s a Times column about the etiquette of co-working spaces (public offices in which you can rent deskspace)

-Some radio radio: I talked to Lynne Rossetto Kasper at The Splendid Table about getting conversations started at holiday gatherings, to the eponym of The Colin McEnroe Show about dealing with a–holes, and to Piya Chattopadhyay at Out in the Open about how to talk to relatives and colleagues during these charged political times


How Not to Be a Jerk About Sharing Vacation Photos

I loved being on the public radio show Q to discuss my recent article about online oversharing. The folks at Q have called the segment How Not to Be A Jerk About Sharing Vacation Photos.


Recent Yammerings

In the Times, I’ve discussed the tyranny of other people’s vacation photos, and the etiquette of the empty nest. The former article contains the phrase “comfort bosoms,” and I think we can all agree that a good day is a day in which you have occasion to say “comfort bosoms.”



-I wrote about having a virtual assistant named Amy for ten days, in the New York Times

-I peed on North Carolina’s bathroom law, in the New Yorker



Get Your Shonda On

In honor of television titan Shonda Rhimes’ new memoir, I spent a month saying yes to opportunities that scare me or take me out of my comfort zone, and then wrote about it for the New York Times.


I miss Downton’s Thomas and O’Brien 


Uneasy Lies the Head

Vanity Fair had me ask six therapists and mental health professionals whether Donald Trump is legitimately a narcissist. Psychology Today wrote a follow-up (the sparky British tabloid the Daily Mail also  wrote a follow-up, as did something called


“Welcome to Weedstock”

I recently attended the National Cannabis Summit in Denver for a New York Times story. Caught up in the go-go-go entrepreneurial zest on display at the Summit, I went and visited a few pot dispensaries, telling one of them, “I want to feel like tiny wings have emerged from my nape and ankles.”



Should you be close friends with people who you work with? At the risk of sounding churlish, I argued “No” on this episode of the public radio show Q. (The opposing and more humane “Yes” is provided by “noted cozyologist” Elizabeth Bromstein.)